Life can sometimes feel like standing in the middle of a storm. The world around us seems unpredictable, our emotions run high, and the ground doesn’t feel steady. For many people, chaos comes in different forms, a demanding workload, changes in relationships, financial uncertainty, or even the weight of inner struggles that don’t always show on the outside.

When we’re caught in chaos, it’s easy to feel powerless. Yet even in the most turbulent times, there are ways to find small moments of stability , gentle anchors that can remind us we’re still here, still breathing, and still able to move forward one step at a time.

For many musicians, creatives and performers, the stage feels like home. It’s a place of connection, catharsis, and recognition. But what happens when your sense of self-worth becomes fused with how well you perform, how loud the applause is, how many people show up, or how much praise you receive?

It’s not always obvious. It can feel like drive, ambition, a standard. But beneath that can live a more fragile truth: if you’re only as good as your last performance, your worth starts to feel conditional.

Many of us are taught explicitly or implicitly that putting others first is a sign of strength, goodness, or selflessness. And to some extent, it is. Caring deeply, being reliable, offering support these are all meaningful and valuable parts of being in relationship with others.

But what happens when this becomes a pattern that leaves no room for ourselves?

When we consistently prioritise other people’s needs, feelings, and expectations above our own, something quiet but significant can begin to happen: we lose touch with what we need, what we feel, and who we are.