Life can sometimes feel like standing in the middle of a storm. The world around us seems unpredictable, our emotions run high, and the ground doesn’t feel steady. For many people, chaos comes in different forms, a demanding workload, changes in relationships, financial uncertainty, or even the weight of inner struggles that don’t always show on the outside.

When we’re caught in chaos, it’s easy to feel powerless. Yet even in the most turbulent times, there are ways to find small moments of stability , gentle anchors that can remind us we’re still here, still breathing, and still able to move forward one step at a time.

A psychodynamic look at unconscious patterns in relationships

Have you ever found yourself saying, “Not again…” after yet another relationship—romantic, platonic, or professional—falls into the same uncomfortable pattern? Maybe it’s the emotionally unavailable partner, the friend who constantly takes but rarely gives, or the collaborator who starts off with charm and ends in chaos. Different faces, same feeling.

It’s easy to blame bad luck or external circumstances. But from a psychodynamic perspective, repetition in relationships is rarely accidental. Instead, these patterns often point toward something deeper: our unconscious mind quietly shaping the dynamics we’re drawn to—without us even realising it.

In my work as a psychotherapeutic counsellor—and as someone who also navigates the world as a musician—I’ve come to recognise some of the distinct needs creatives bring into the therapy room. This post explores how we, as therapists, can better hold space for those whose identities are entwined with creativity.